A GLAMOURous View on Autism (As seen by a rag/or magazine, your choice)
Welcome back to the Audacious Aspie, today, we will finish up looking at the wonderful, or dreadful, magazine/or rag GLAMOUR, and its unique view on autism (again, from a woman’s point of view! Not a HollyWood rag writer!). After this post, we will be moving on to the next throwback chapter in the blogs history, because feeling old, I mean retro, never goes out of style. In my university, we have something called throwback thursday at different points of the year. To be honest, I don't think making your parents feel old while simultaneously celebrating and mocking harshly their years of youth ever went out of style.
Must have been bad though if a major war happened at that time: (college students discuss a throwback thursday event in 1950) “Hey! Why don't we dress up like the 1940’s? Too soon?”
Continuing on: after the divorce (juicy details in last post) the writer discovers some interesting things. Firstly, she likes how people think, rather than how they look (theres a name for it, but I don’t remember it) and secondly, she is bad at flirting (I know her pain only too, too will). So what about dating apps? Don't work for her (no reason given). She also mentions something that I probably forgot to myself: face blindness. What is it? Think of it this way: you have a favourite teddy bear, that wears the same outfit everyday, all day. As soon as you see even a little bit of the outfit, you know it's your teddy bear.
But one day, someone changes the outfit on you without you knowing, so whenever you see it, it looks like just another beaten up teddy bear. You won’t know it’s yours until someone tells you or the cloths are changed back to the old way. You can see how this could be problematic when dating. For the writer, though, telling people she is autistic is not a problem. If anything, it ends up as an icebreaker (sometimes with the person responding that she does not look autistic, not sure how you can look autistic, but you can certainly look stupid. Just put a red ball-cap with the words “make your country here great again!). I know that in a recent post I highlighted some problems with this, but suppose it is different with other people. Perhaps it all depends on how much courage you have in telling others.
Just like it takes a lot of courage to step on the backs of friends as they form a bridge to get you across while they fall to their deaths. Being a hero is hard work.
Now the article gets into some upsides of dating autistic people, like: only games we play are DND, not HTG (hard to get); we don’t know why people like to do this, makes no sense to us. If we like the person, might as well let them know (mind you, we can certainly be taught. Though I’m not sure why you would want to learn anyways). We don’t get lying, to the point where we are like George Washington: we can never tell a lie (though we can sure as sheep learn to recognise one from another person). But, if you're afraid of the answer to a question, Best not to ask us it.
This ends for the look at GLAMOUR: What it's really like to date when you have autism. Whether or not it was an insightful piece, or good only for the virtual trash bin, is debatable. Point is, we got to see the spectrum from a new point of view, an interesting take on the subject. Next week we will rediscover another popular favorite, maybe as interesting as this one is. Until then, this continues to be, the Audacious Aspie.
Sources used:
http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/dating-someone-with-autism